October 14, 2018, Prescott-
No, I did not mean hyperactivity. My day is fairly well balanced and more focused than some of my recently-made friends have perceived. I did not mean overextended, though there are days when I have to snip the cord on one activity or another.
Overactivity (my term) means having more options to which to be committed than some feel is healthy. One person even got an insight that my current level of social involvement amounts to a safety net, a cocoon, if you will, through which I can escape confronting my pain.
In truth, each night and for a good part of my weekends, I am indeed alone with my state of being. There was a period of time, about three years, when travel eased my pain at losing my wife of 29 years. The first year, 2011, saw me going about with clouded judgement, for about four months. Some family members were angry with me, for not “getting it together and moving on”. I believe these people have come to see things differently. Now, largely being in one community, I am building a sense of personal power. I am glad to share my energy with groups like the American Legion, Red Cross and Slow Food Prescott-and I do not find it overwhelming, nor do I find it a means of escaping pain.
Those in pain themselves will likely call “bullshit”, but that is their individual mirror. I have not been shy about opting out of an event or an activity, when I feel the need to rest or when someone’s personal needs arise. I know where I am inside, emotionally- and physically.
Spiritually, I believe in Baha’u’llah, as the Manifestation of God for this Day. I believe in the Oneness of Mankind, as do many people of various Faiths-and many of no Faith. I believe in the continuity of spiritual revelation. Some even think they know where mankind is going, after the completion of Baha’u’llah’s Revelation (at least 825 more years). Maybe they are right. I can only say, it is time now to bring about the end to needless suffering, and if you have ideas that can help in that regard, bring them to the fore! It is not overactive, hyperactive or even being overwrought, to have a passion that belongs on the table, that needs to be shared and enkindled.
Let us keep an open hand to one another, an open mind to the ideas of others and an even temper, when dealing with each other’s foibles, weaknesses and areas in which one needs to grow. If that is difficult for someone, let he or she point the area out-preferably in a loving way, leaving the offending party to themselves, and,as Baha’u’llah wrote, “Beseech God to guide them”. It’s time to burn the masks which limit us.
Over-activity by your definition relies on an outside opinion of your commitment level. In my book the only one to make the determination is the individual doing the activities!! Don’t reduce your involvement based on someone else’s idea as you alone know when you need to step back.
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This is true, Val. I have a fairly good internal meter.
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It is sad to think that some people wanted you to snap out of the grief you were having after Penny’s death. You can’t snap out of it, or get over it. For some people, getting through a death may be easy. But not for others. 😩
I had the same experience, when, in my teens, I was depressed after a break up. And people would tell me to snap out of it. They didn’t realize, how much pain I was in.
Take care, hugs!
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Fortunately, these relatives got over their callousness. My mother made sure of it.
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