January 28, 2020-
The OTHER #MeToo surfaced, quite vociferously, in the aftermath of Sunday’s tragic helicopter crash. Many were asking, “What about the others in the crash?” The answer came in a suitable time frame, as it was explained that the families of the other members of the group had to be notified, before their identities could be made public.
That there was a pushback against any implication, that the lives of those who weren’t public figures were of somewhat lesser importance than those of Kobe and Gianna Bryant, was gratifying. These people were friends and collaborators of the Bryants, and even if they weren’t, their passings were tragic, in their own right.
Back when Bill Cosby was a more highly-regarded personage, and his only son was killed on a California freeway, another young person was murdered, the same night. Mr. Cosby went to the home of the young lady’s mother and quietly offered his condolences- thus acknowledging that her grief equaled his.
Each of us ought to be thus treated, when the circumstances of life bring pain to our doorsteps. Fame can be a burden, as well as a boon. It can generate sycophancy, and overcharged protestations of grief, from people who don’t personally know the famed individuals. It can, more decently, bring genuine condolences from high and low alike. The proof is in the condolences that are offered families whose departed loved ones are NOT well-known.
Let us, too, be each other’s genuine source of strength and solace.