April 18, 2026- The out-of-the-blue critic questioned whether I have done anything “today” for women and girls. I answered. matter-of-factly, because when someone addresses me by name, my idea of courtesy is to acknowledge what seems to be their concern. My career, protecting and educating children and teenagers aside, what I am doing NOW is to help raise a little girl to be forthright, to articulate and follow her dreams and to grow into a woman of character and strength-like her mother and maternal grandmother, like her paternal grandmother, like her great grandmothers,
That will likely mean little to the ideologue who spent too much time worrying about what a man she’s never met-and is unlikely to ever encounter-does to help womankind. Actions are never enough for someone whose anger, mindset, life experiences create a blindness that would take years of counterbalancing to relieve.
So, I consider the comment that I made, on a longtime friend’s site, about narcissists not having anyone to blame but themselves, for whatever lack of success they may have in finding a mate. Even after pondering the critic’s remarks, I hold fast to that conviction-and do not regard it as making excuses for anyone’s bad behaviour. Narcissism is a condition, not a dodge; just as, for me, autism is a condition, but does not give me a free pass to conduct myself in an untoward manner.
I will carry on, tomorrow, and for years to come, helping my granddaughter embrace life to the fullest. I will stand beside, and help, other women and girls, whenever time allows and in the manner that they request. I will address statements and actions stemming from misogyny, to the best of my ability. I will not, however, be a slave to the loudest voices in the room. One size does not fit all, and mere ideology fits few, if any.
Well said Gary! I have tried to instill respect for others in my sons. So far it appears Sparky and I were successful! I’m sure you are doing a great job with Hana and she is lucky to have 3 devoted adults looking out for her well-being!
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Thanks so much, Val! I have worked to move beyond mere nicety and devote myself to fostering self-empowerment in Hana, and by extension, her parents.
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You are a man with a plan, a mission and a dedication to family that is much admired (even if it doesn’t get communicated on a regular basis)!
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100% Amen!! These emotional vampires are empty vessels that get a kick out of draining people. Best to avoid them as much as possible and give them the silent treatment, because then they have to deal with what they cannot face (themselves).
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Good points.
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