June 8, 2019,Bellemont-
A young woman I’ve known since she was a child will be married, in a few hours. It’s a beautiful day here and, though I will be here at camp, rather than at the wedding, I absolutely wish the new couple every good thing.
One of the key aspects of married life, as well as of any relationship, is not taking offense at one another. Whether mannerisms, tone of voice, inattention to another’s feelings, not doing one’s fair share, or a host of other personal shortcomings, every person has challenges.
We are advised to neither ignore, nor take offense at, another person’s actions, on a personal level. If someone causes harm to another, it is the aggrieved’s right to seek redress, at an institutional level.. It is not, however, the right of anyone to hold grudges, and to carry forward a resolved issue into one’s future dealings with someone.
One surely must protect self from a person, or group of people, who ACTIVELY seek to degrade her/him. Just living differently than the person taking offense, or not doing what the aggrieved thinks is one’s proper course of living, is not, in itself, cause for their bearing a grudge. “Live and let live” has its merits, as a mantra, so long as innocents aren’t made to suffer as a result.
I say this, with regard to those who have taken umbrage at some recent decisions I’ve made-and hold myself to the same standard. I can’t justify a “reverse grudge” at them, either. This is one of the many true aspects of St. Francis D’Assisi’s admonition: “Let there be peace on Earth and let it begin with me.”