December 25, 2014, Vail, AZ-
When I finally got my phone plugged in, this evening, and was able to have a decent conversation with my mother, we each agreed that the other had done a good job of parenting. We also gave credit to our now departed spouses. The finest gift one could ever get, regardless of the occasion, is consistent love from a parent.
Some say it’s the parent with whom one shares gender, who is the most crucial influence in life. I found the influence of both to be critical to my survival and happiness, over time. I know Penny valued both of her parents, and her father loved his three girls, with all the paternal ardor he could muster. Penny poured her heart and soul into raising our son, as did I. What sparked this in my mind, was seeing a photo of a young man playing a video game on his phone, with his two daughters very close to him, and looking very glad that their Daddy was with them.
People can do all sorts of things that are positive, with their children. Most of the messages I have received from people today about their family time, yesterday and today, have been positive and full of gratitude. There are a few tales of conflict and strife, mainly from the victims of selfish and unhappy parents. Those tales pain me, especially when I think of how much my parents did to make our lives joyful, and I know it wasn’t easy for them, a good many years.
I spent a marvelous Christmas Eve and Day with a couple of wonderful friends, just east of Tucson. This is the first day in a while, that I don’t have a boatload of photos to unleash on you, my faithful readers. Just know that enjoying a meal prepared by a woman who can barely eat anything, is worth all the buffets in all the casinos of the world. Eating fresh-baked biscuits, as is, was one of the best breakfasts ever. My friend and I went out for lunch, he hoping to find a Chinese buffet. We found a small place which prepared off the menu, and did even better, meal-wise, than we might have at a buffet. The relaxation that I enjoyed the past two days was a huge Christmas gift.
So, too, was speaking with my Mom, after all these years, one of the best friends I could ever want. She doesn’t feel old, and that does my heart fabulous. Hope a fine Yule was had by you,but if not, look to the New Year. Sometimes, Happy can’t be summoned within a given time frame.