September 22, 2018, Prescott-
This is probably the latest I’ve been up, in many weeks. Yet, spending much of the day reading friends’ posts reminds me to get something of my own out.
I was not much for physical contact, when I was a child. Teenage brought a sense that girls were to be touched, but only if they themselves wanted. I was all over the place, in my twenties, but still rarely gave an unwanted hug- and backed way off when the person was resistant. Years of a good marriage largely erased the discomfort with physical contact that was so much a part of living with Asperger’s.
With Penny gone, my tendency has been more to hug, when a person seems to need or want a hug. That also comes naturally, working with children- and I have never adopted the “no contact” dictum that was the overreaction of the Politically Correct, to incidents of molestation. It was up to the child, whether a hug was in order, and up to me, the adult, to honour reasonable rules of decorum- above all, that physical contact be in the presence of other adults, and that I never be alone with a child, with the door closed.
This is pretty much how it is between adults as well. I have no significant other, yet have plenty of fine friends, of, as I have said several times, of all sorts. What I embrace, above all, is the notion of dignity and worth, to be given all whose paths I cross.