I have used the term “best friend” almost to distraction, of late, so it seems prudent to offer some clarification, as to what I mean.

Until March, 2011, my best friend, for 30 years was also my wife and soul mate.  There is no disputing that, still, and as I type, I feel her energy touching my fingertips.

I now consider another person my best friend. She is neither my romantic partner nor my soul mate, but that’s because those roles were long ago filled.  This is new territory for me, so what do I mean by saying such a thing?

There are nine things about a best friend, that this person exemplifies in my life.

1.  She sees me as I really am, strengths and weaknesses.

2.  She does not mince words, while being kind.

3.  She honours and states her own feelings and needs.

4.  She sets clear limits and boundaries.

5.  She is here for me, when I have the need to be heard..

7.  She knows I am here for her, and accepts my help, knowing it is unconditionally offered.

8.  She distinguishes between true friendship and other relationships, and never loses sight of that.

9.  She has a strong set of personal ethics, which are never compromised.

These are the reasons why I regard this individual in such a high light.  I hope someday to be at least half the friend she has been to me, over the past 1 1/2 years.