March 9, 2018, Prescott-
Yesterday was the official International Women’s Day. I was in the company of my two beautiful co-workers, during the day. Both have men in their lives, who are luckier than either woman might sometimes suppose. As an aside, it occurs to me that every day should be Women’s Day.
My mind today, the last day before Spring Break, has been on fidelity. Faithfulness is the mindset, and chastity the outcome, of a person who feels fidelity, loyalty, to another human being.
I was faithful to Penny, all those years. There were times when other women would flirt with me, and she made it clear that we’d all get clobbered, if they kept it up. She needn’t have ever worried. I wasn’t going anywhere. The proof of that became clear to her, when we circled the drain together, those eight years. I stayed close; kept hope alive. I guarded her from those whose sole concern was getting their hands on what little money we had. I spoke up for her when an emotionally clumsy male nurse made her cry.
Since I’ve been back on my own, my fidelity has been to friends and to my charges. Some get it; some don’t. I have a friend, whom I have at times regarded as my best friend, who has adopted a distance, ostensibly for reasons of our differences in spirituality, which are in truth, basically semantic. I respect that distance, and stay away. Most of my friends, even the most emotionally needy, know full well where my loyalties lie.
I spent this evening, with a few such people, in the comfort of devotional drumming. We used Baha’i Scripture and prayers for this, but there are many traditions. Here is the Indian drummer, Sivamani, accompanying a Hindu woman in song.