January 7, 2019-
Last night, just before I signed off for the evening, I got a caustic response to a few suggestions I had made, to another blogger’s post. This sort of thing is a risk that comes with being part of a public network.
While I took the liberty of “unfollowing” that person’s blog, as one should not intrude on another’s space without that person’s consent, I had to ponder her motivation for such an outburst. She did, after all, ask for “ideas” about her particular dilemma.
There are a couple of possibilities-She may have been in the mood for a “game of gotcha”, though trolling, under the circumstances she described in the post to which I responded, seems rather far-fetched. More likely, she is looking at the various suggestions made, and winnowing them out, favouring those that are as close to her comfort zone as possible, while still entailing some effort on her part to solve the problem described therein.
That’s an understandable, human practice, and I daresay we all do that, with regard to some, if not most, issues in our lives. She pointed out that I didn’t know her schedule, so how could my suggestions fit? None of us can be inside another’s brain, or heart. So, we do the best we can, when asked. If our ideas are wide of the mark, well, at least we made an effort. I will continue to offer ideas to to others, when asked, and can only guarantee that I will be putting some thought and feeling into the process.
No pain, no gain.
A Sagittarian Seeker 
She probably only hears what she wants to. If it works for her, great. However, it is most likely she will surround herself with other immature people who support negative decisions and suffer until she realizes her fault and breaks free.
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Ironically, the title of her blog site has to do with breaking free. Yes, so many are content in the echo chamber.
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I can not imagine you giving any recommendation that is not thoughtful and polite. Your insights show wisdom as does your action to leave her blog. She may just need time to internalize new information.
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That is highly likely, as there is a lot of defensiveness that people experience, when dealing with guilt or self-loathing. It’s all a cover.
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I know right! Mr Righteousbruin9 always give the honest but polite feedback. Guess the person was not open to honest feedback and only seek praise.
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Yes, that’s how it seems. I am not a sycophant.
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I hope that you also responded directly to that person — it is easy to misunderstand the intent of what one reads on the blogs of others.
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She did not wish to hear another word out of me. Sometimes, it is best to give a person space and go back later. I had to do that, time and again, with a couple of friends on Xanga.
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Very true ~ ~ ~
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Just ignore and move on.That is what I stressed in my recent blog post on Trolls.Your post is full of wisdom.Thank you
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So I have decided.
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She probably didn’t want ideas, not really anyway. Don’t give it another thought.. 🙂
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I won’t .
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You’re right – we do the best we can, but we can’t be inside another’s brain or heart. How others react to you is a reflection of who they are, and nothing to do with who you are.
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Yes, this is the basic truth, which those who try to live through other people find inconvenient. I just move on.
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I’m sorry that happened. There seems to be some much of this going around! Btw I welcome all of your suggestions and support. You always have wise thoughts.
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Thank you, Stella!
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You’re welcome!:)
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Hi Mr Righteousbruin9 🙂
I’m sorry to hear that you have to experience such thing.
Unfortunately some people do not appreciate honest feedback. That reminds me of the quote that Paul Arden said “Do not seek praise, seek criticism’. Sometimes criticism can act as a fuel to improve oneself however, you need to be open minded for that, which this blogger seems to not have.
I think it is best to avoid talking to that person, it is unlikely people would change their ways, especially views which can be sticky as peanut butter!
Wish you a pleasant new year Sir! 🙂
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