August 3, 2021- That is what some have said to me, when what I have told them is not what they wanted to hear. Usually, it has come from someone who barely knew anything about me and was just projecting their own hopes and dreams onto what they thought should have been my actions.
I have used this phrase, myself, when coming to a conclusion about someone who offers only excuses, over time, for not achieving what is possible, given their abilities or skill sets. I have used it, in that vein, with myself, on occasion-and thus have begun a bounce back. It’s been my way to tell self not to give up.
For the fourth time in my life, I have cut someone off, who has consistently argued and rebutted my suggestions. I stuck with this individual for nearly four years, and now it is time for walking under his own power. I believe he will, even if after a period of rage towards me and of self-pity. The human spirit simply cannot abide such drivel, in perpetuity. If I did not believe this was so, I would not have tried to help him, in the first place.
“Oh, okay…” I say this, to those who believe only ONE political viewpoint or philosophy can suffice all human needs.
I say this, to those who claim that there needs to be a Ruling Class, to which all others must bow.
I say this, to those who maintain that the “White Race” owes the rest of humanity a bailout.
I say this, to anyone who believes that one nation or ethnic group is superior to all others, and therefore should either take on all responsibility for those others’ well-being or subject them to servitude.
I say this, to anyone who rejects the notion that it takes concerted group effort, free of ideology or partisanship, to fix any major problem that exists-anywhere.
In truth, these attitudes are NOT okay. Refusing to educate the children in one’s community, state or nation, unless high tuition is paid, is NOT okay. Refusing to re-negotiate with a potential ally in social progress, because of past indiscretions or disagreements, is NOT okay. Refusing to accept others, because of differences of opinion, is NOT okay. Refusing to take responsibility for one’s actions is NOT okay.
I hold myself to these points, so it is reasonable for me to hold others to them, as well.
Oh, ok — a good mantra for acceptance of what is without forcing change or adaptation to what is not!
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Yes, I have taken a more Zen-like approach to differences in perception of reality.
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Your perception of reality is important when there are differences — it’s important to stand by your reality unless otherwise convinced! People who profess need often are not as needy as they say they are!
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I believe that most needs can be addressed locally, in this day and age, except in times of severe natural or man-made destruction. This is true, even in poorer countries. People were discouraged from working together, in colonial times. Now, however, I will not stop encouraging co-operative efforts and discouraging dependence on “Bwana”.
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Sad but you need to do what is right for you and to stop being a crutch to others. As hard as it is to cut someone off, it is often the impetus that is needed for their realization that they CAN stand alone, and even succeed!
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I am sure that he will be just fine. The man grew up without a father, but I know that if he tries, he will grow out of it.
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