Growing (Beyond) Pains

January 24, 2020-

Every community has its pain.  I saw lots in Peach Springs, just as I did so many years ago, in various communities of the Navajo (Dineh) and Hopi Nations-and I know the pain continues, even though life is better, in some parts of the old Home Base.  So, too, there was, and is, pain in Phoenix, in La Paz County and here in Prescott.  I heard of suffering in Seligman, which is en route to any point northwest of here, yesterday, when I stopped for an early dinner.

People have their concerns, their agonies and their setbacks.  What makes the difference in much of this, is the extent to which the suffering souls lay their woes at the feet of others.  I’ve done some of that, and have thankfully learned to put that mindset behind me.  Whine and cheese are not the stuff of social progress.

I have said a bit about what I’d like to see in Peach Springs, though my own skill sets may not do much, immediately, to help that community, on the ground.  Prescott does have a few programs in place, which can help those who are knocked down, in getting themselves upright.  Essentially, though, it falls to each person to determine his/her own course of action.  The Blame Game may be mildly salving, for a day or so, then the confusion sets in, as one sees no progress.

When I last found myself really foundering, I had to set concrete steps for my own recovery.  They involved a mix of travel, social media-journaling, exercise, photography and involvement in the community that I chose as Home Base.  That mix still suits me, and it will long continue.

My hopes for each community that matters in my heart is that strong and good-hearted people will take the lead and show their family, friends and neighbours the way forward.  I want to be there when these communities arise.

9 thoughts on “Growing (Beyond) Pains

  1. Well, growing pangs can be painful. I learned a little too late that everything that happens to a person is the person’s fault, even if they were helpless. It becomes part of their karma. Sometimes if you get off the ground, you’ll be killed, which is also your choice. Life can be cruel. You have to accept it. There’s not always a better option.

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      • yeah, I learned to not take life so seriously, just laugh. Also, the chains of life are off me, like to mores and duty. They can do almost anything to me, and I can get past it because nothing really shocks me anymore or offends me. Sometimes I become annoyed and throw a flame back at them. I rarely care.

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  2. I often feel I am at the bottom of the learning curve. Then remind myself that I have come a long way. Being of service to other’s growth has been the best way for me to grow. In working with individuals and groups it was important to talk about life long learning and self-forgiveness. We are all in process.

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  3. Hello Teacher,

    Tonight, at my home base, before the formalities of the night began, our team sat down and talked about just what we could do as a body to further help those “Floundering” as you would say. Our kids are much older than your kids are, unlike younger kids who aren’t necessarily able to think for themselves, and the adults have to make executive decisions about their mental welfare, our pre-adult kids have minds of their own, and have chosen, in the past, to eschew guidance or even the thought that we are “telling them, highly suggestively,” what they can do to better their situations. Because our kids do not like being told what to do, in fact, nobody likes to be told, what to do, even if what you are telling them can, in essence, make a huge difference in their respective dispositions.

    I spoke to my best friend too, and shared with him, my gratitude that, like a rock, he is always there to sort me out when I am out of sorts. One of the only people in my social circle who will tell me like it is, and highly suggest when I need to change tack. You need people like that in your life, those you CAN lay your woes down at their feet and allow them to help us, when necessary.

    Whine and Cheese is not a meal I often partake, many of our kids are feasting on a solid diet of wine and cheese, for months now, and getting nowhere. Collectively, as a group, we’ve decided to pull back from “suggestion detail” We’ve all realized that unless our kids ask for or want help, then we need to just leave them alone, until such time that they admit powerlessness and ask us for help

    But your kids, wiping lap tops is a tall order. That is huge responsibility, on the shoulder of those who are going to perform that task. The first thing that came to mind is the legality of doing so, under the circumstances you are in right now with your kids. Our schools here, try to circumvent that kind of issue with outright bans on laptops and phones in class.

    We should always choose our battles wisely knowing where our strengths lie, and just what we are capable of doing for others, knowing that humans have that thing called “free will” to say either YAY or NAY to whatever we try to show or tell them. We cannot save everyone. Which sends me back to an earlier thought I said to you the other night. Find the ONE. Most disposed to reception of guidance. And run with it, until you’ve exhausted your store of energy and knowledge.

    I’ve been told by my guys that they appreciate my consistency. That is key… I may not have all the answers, as long as i am consistent. Like the rising and setting of the sun.

    Know you are in my thoughts. Have a good weekend.

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    • Here in Arizona, schools own the laptops and can block any sites they see fit. There is way too much laissez-faire worrying about “not hurting their feelings”, when in reality, younger children push boundaries to see who really cares. With adolescents, it is indeed more of a free will, finding who he/she is situation. Yes, I am sure that the closest to me is the person on whom I will be directing my energies. I am not at that worksite now, but will be communicating with the adults and kids regularly. Thank you for your honest opinions, Jeremy. Have a good weekend, as well.


  4. As I’ve said before, it all comes down to choices. The best is to inform and support prior to making choices so that when it is time a good choice is made (or at least not a destructive one).Teachers are on the front lines in those situations!!

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